ANGRY MOM, YOU’RE NOT ALONE WITH YOUR ANGER!!!

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I had never thought of myself as an angry mom. But then I had kids now that changed and knock me over. Words flew from my mouth and somehow punctured a hole in the cup so that finally it could all drain away, slowly. Anger can give us clues about underlying emotions. So keep this in mind, how anger connects with other emotions and how we are judged for expressing anger.

Here are some reasons you get angry with your kids. This isn’t exhaustive, but it hits the big ones.

# You take things personally: For some irrational reason, we moms tend to take disobedience a personal insult. I say do this, they do that, and I want to get offended at their audacity. Then I remind myself they are children. They intuitively want to please their parents but they don’t intuitively know how. You cannot take their behaviour and choices personally.
When your anger rises after a particular situation, and before you pounce, take a minute to think about the root of your anger. Are you angry simply because they didn’t do what you said? Fair enough they need to obey, but your anger will not bring about the type of obedience you want. Calm down and remember, it’s consistency, discipline, and training that brings about your desired results, not their fear of your angry outbursts.

# Your expectations need adjusting: It’s hard to know what to rightfully expect as mothers. You don’t want to low ball or high ball the kids by expecting what they can’t deliver or not expecting what they should. This is a work in progress that needs regular tweaking. Expect obedience, but not 100% obedience.

# You’re empty and need a recharge: Motherhood calls for a lot of sacrifices. There are certain things we must do just because we must. However, we should attempt to include in our daytime to ourselves where at all possible. Take some time alone. Put them all to bed early and do something that helps you relax or recharge. If you can manage, go on a mommy vacation for a weekend.

# You’ve let things get out of control and need a reset: Be over the top consistent. Evaluate your expectations then explain over and over again what you expect from them. Explain over again what will happen if they don’t do what you expect. It’ll be tedious for a week, but you should expect to see a return to normal and pleasant behaviour within a short period of time.

# You’re stressed and need an outlet: If you are habitually stressed it may be time to do some more extreme measures or even putting firm boundaries in relationships, at work, or in areas that are out of your control.You may not be able to control the circumstances that cause you stress, but your children shouldn’t suffer for it. Perhaps you need to cut back on commitments, slow down, and re-evaluate your priorities. Even if something drastic must be done, you will be glad you did something when you’re able to finish a day without having lost it!

So… while it’s normal to get angry, we should be able to manage it. While our kids do need to understand their actions have consequences, we don’t need to explode on them.
And instead of just trying not to yell, remember: anger is not the issue, a deeper issue is the issue. 😊😊

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Teach Your Children to Keep Their Room Clean!!!

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All parents would love their children to learn how to keep their room clean, but it may be hard to know where to start, especially if you think your children are too young. Young children can easily learn how to pick up their toys on their own, with early training.

However, I know how easy it is to teach your children to keep their room clean with just some focused attention. Some suggestions to teach children to keep their room clean:

# Set a good example: Kids are far more sensitive and responsive to what we do than what we say. Keep your own things in order? Have a positive attitude toward the daily tasks of keeping a house? If the answer is yes, you’ve won half the battle.

# Give kids pride of place: Kids who feel their space is especially their own are more likely to want to keep it nice. Find ways to give them some control over how their space looks and where things are kept. It’s not expensive to let them rearrange the furniture.They can decorate boxes to organize their stuff and choose or make pictures for the wall.

# Everything in its proper place: You start teaching by giving everything in their room a place that it belongs.Once everything in its place, a child will be able to understand where something belongs and can be one step closer to keep their room clean. Half the battle for a child is not understanding where things should go and how to keep them organized without having it demonstrated to them. Organizing in their room helps them to play creatively for a longer period.

# Put things back when you are done with It: By having their toys organized, they can have all their toys out at one time and enjoy hours of play and back again when done.

# Start morning routine: As your morning goes, so does the rest of your day. Set routine for the morning, which includes making their bed, they can be doing this all on their own.

# Implement a cleanup time before dinner: It is easy for us to call our children to dinner and they come to the table, while their toys lay on their floor. Give them a 30 minutes time prior to dinner to start to clean up their room and then they can help set the table for dinner. If we miss this we really regret it.

# Tidy up once a week together: Once a week, go into your children’s room with them and do a five minute tidy up.

Always make mention that you found things that didn’t belong where you found them. Point out things that when you put them in their right place to re-enforce their rightful place and to keep your children accountable.😊😊

Encouraging different ways to get your children to listen…

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Parenting a kid is a great way to feel like you aren’t exactly winning at parenting.

Children are just like the rest of us, they don’t always listen. At their age, they need you to teach them how to pay attention. It teaches kids that they can ignore you the first 10 times you say something and only pay attention when you’re about to lose it. Getting your child to listen doesn’t have to be a battle. Some encouraging phrase which will improve toddler to listen to you:

# You are very helpful dear: This is a great phrase to let a toddler know he is doing a good job without actually using a good job, good boy, or good girl. It also helps toddlers get in the mindset to help others in need, in addition to helping them feel independent and capable.

# Show me how to do: If a toddler is doing something you don’t want him to do (like stand on an office chair with wheels) you can say, “Can you show me how to do this puzzle over here?” Or “Can you help me read this book over here?” This is a great phrase to re-direct toddlers to a new activity without getting into a power struggle.

# Can we try instead: Instead of saying, “Get off the counter,” you could say, “Can we try sitting nicely instead?” You could also modify it and say, “Sit properly.” Modelling the behaviour you want your toddler to obey also increases the likelihood of listening.

# Get on their level: Eye contact is important and works best when you’re face to face with your child. He’ll listen much more closely if you sit down next to him at the breakfast table when reminding him to eat up his vegetable.

# Be clear: State your message clearly, simple, and with quiet authority.

# Give warnings: Give your child some advance notice before a big change will take place, especially if he’s happily involved with toys or a friend. Before you’re ready to leave the house, say, “We’re going to leave in a few minutes. When I call you, it’s time to come out of the sandbox and wash your hands.”

# Be instructive – and make it fun: Yelling orders may produce results, but no one will enjoy the process. Most children respond best when you treat them with confident good humour. Make sure the benefits of listening make sense to your child. (Brush your teeth and then you can pick out your favourite clothes, instead of “You have to brush your teeth or you’ll get cavities” or Brush your teeth NOW) Praise when finishes brushing.

# Model good behaviour: Children will be better listeners if they see that you’re a good listener, too. Make it a habit to listen to your child as respectfully as you would to any adult. Look at them when they talk to you, respond politely, and let finish without interrupting whenever possible.😊😊

Teaching healthy habits to tween that last for lifetime!!!

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Healthy habits are not only habits but these are life lessons.
As a responsible mother, the most important thing to remember is that you are your child’s role model, so introduce healthy habits to your children and your family.

Your kids will carry habits with them which are taught to them and carry them along. Kids are like clay and you can mould them as you want but always remember one thing they will learn all good habits by observing you. So, teaching good habits begins with practising by your own self.

It’s time to teach your growing kids hygiene habits to last a lifetime. Some tween can be fussy and conscientious about hygiene and cleanliness. Other tweens may need a little encouragement in order to establish healthy habits and routines.Some of them are listed below:

# The first healthy habit is to keep the body clean:
Keeping body clean, now becomes a responsibility. You should talk about taking showers more often, washing her face, brushing her hair by herself, cleaning pierced ears, flossing, having fresh breath, taking care of acne, and cleaning her fingernails.

# The second healthy habit is taking care of her underarms: Sweating is natural and healthy.Then talk about deodorant and teach her how to shave her underarm hair if she chooses too. Nobody knows how to shave properly right from the beginning, it takes patience and practice. Your child can get a closer shave with disposable razors once she’s more confident and has a better understanding of what she’s doing.

# The third healthy habit is to have a healthy attitude about body changes: Between ages 9-12, she’ll start to notice changes in her body shape. Everyone is different and develop into different shapes at a different rate. “Your weight depends on how your body is built. Also, your body hasn’t finished developing yet. Just remember, you are made beautifully.

# A healthy body includes, starting her period:
Most girls start between ages 10-15.Begin this conversation with her, Your period is the period of time each month when a fluid containing blood flows out. It’s a sign that your body is working properly. It’s preparing to grow up. It’s so important to talk about what she can do the first day.

# Go easy on perfumes:
Tween is tempted to choose deodorant products with strong scents, but sometimes those products can irritate young skin. Help your child find a product that does the job, without causing skin problems.

# Compliments
Compliment your tween when they take the time to look good. Your child should know that people notice the effort and that personal appearance does matter.

Lastly, talk about things about to stay healthy. Fueling body with healthy food by snacking, listening to hunger cues, eating a balanced food, and staying hydrated. A daily diet rich in all the essential vitamins and minerals.

Don’t let the changes that are happening intimidate you. She will be just as anxious to know what is going on as you are. Start a conversation with her today!😊😊

Why kids are worse when their Mothers are around!!!

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“YOU, dear mamas, are a garbage disposal of unpleasant feelings and emotions. Right!!!

Understanding kids are tough. They want to communicate but don’t have the verbal or emotional skills yet to work through their feelings and needs.

A child feels secure in his mother’s presence. Mother is typically the primary caregiver and love that pushes boundaries and meltdowns. Children can sense conflict and tension, which creates anxiety that manifests itself in tantrums.

It might not be the side of our child we love to be around in fact, it can drive us insane but it’s kind of flattering, right? Just by being a good mum, you encourage your children to express themselves, to be their most natural and, most importantly, to feel safe.

Finally, there is an answer to this question, and that is If your child acts up in front of you it means that you are being a good mom, and doing your job just perfect. If they stay with dad, they are always on their best behaviour. The drama begins as soon as mom steps into the room. If you can’t make something better… well, then who else can? you’ve created a space safe enough for your child to have permission to be natural.

And, by the way… it’s Real important for kids to be natural with their feelings, their emotions and their bodily functions. When they grow up, we want our children to have high functioning emotional intelligence, right?

So, take it as a good sign.😊😊

Help kids to identify strengths and weakness!!!

 

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We live in a world where success is mostly very important in life From our school days onward, we are frequently told to play to our strengths, but what does this message really means?

Does playing to our strengths mean that we should only do the things that we are good at and avoid activities that we are less skilled in? The answers to these questions are important because it appears that there are a number of children who feel that they don’t have any strengths at all. It’s difficult to recognize their own strengths. This lack of belief in their own level of skill and ability is preventing many children from realizing their full potential.

Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. But at what point in life do people recognize them and begin to act in order to make the most of who they are? The earlier we come to understand ourselves, the more satisfied and productive we can become. One gift parents can offer is helping their children discover their own abilities and short comes.

Observe your kid:
Watch them at work and at play time. What kinds of tasks come easily? What tasks seem difficult? What activities do they enjoy? Which ones do they dislike?

Challenge your kid:
Challenge them when you recognize weaknesses in areas they need. Challenge them to improve skills.

Evaluate with your kids:
Give your kids feedback about various task-related areas of their lives. Tasks which they enjoy might be signs of strength. Tasks which they dislike might be signs of weaknesses.

Encourage experimentation:
Kids should have many opportunities to experiment. Kids often stumble onto hidden strengths and weaknesses through new experiences.

Early in kids life:
Your kids will excel in some areas and falter in others. As a parent, you will allow children with their interests and abilities to change over time. A child might excel in mathematics and pursue math-related courses in their earlier school years but want to move in a different academic direction later.

To find a child’s true strength, you need to look for three components –
Use (they want to do the activity all the time),
Energy (never gets tired of practising) and
Performance (is skilled at it).
Knowing these elements enables us to recognize our children’s strengths so that we are better placed to offer support and encouragement in the areas that they truly needed.

How to control screen time during exams!!!

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Kids can improve themselves with the help of mobile phone or they can spoil their life with the same mobile phone. It all depends on how they use mobile phones.

How much time should we give our children for mobile during exams…

1.Primary level does not stress about exams. It is the parents who are more stressed. So talk to your child. Set rules and penalties.
2.During exams, children do need breaks. Allow for 15-20 minutes. This could be considered if they do not wish to play outdoors.

3.If you promise to play only for 20 minutes then you will get mobile. If you do not then no mobile during the exam time at all.

4.If you set a time limit, set a timer and keep it near and follow it.

5.Children see us hooked to the phone for varied reasons and social media is one of them. So it would be wiser for us to use less screen time.

6.If you spend time on gaming then no TV. Negotiate with your child before the exams. Discuss the if..then rule.

7.Playing a game requires focus and a competitive spirit. Talk to your child about using the same in studies.

8.Ensure that the child has done good revision one month prior to exams.

9.Exam time is only for breezing through the book for final revision.

10.If your child has been set into a good study habit routine right from day 1 of school then you need not be anxious at all.

Playing games is an entertainment.

So this could be the much-needed relaxation break in between studies. …😊😊

Why Do Kids Whine?

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Yes, kids whine sometimes.

Maybe because they’re overtired or hungry. It’s best to comfort your child, otherwise… Walk away.

Why? When kids whine and we respond, we provide a payoff that makes the behaviour continue.

Kids whine not to be annoying or intentionally irritate us – they’re often just looking for attention.

Two basic emotional needs our – attention and power which kids tend too. When kids aren’t getting as much positive attention as they need, they will seek it out.

So kids whine repeatedly in the hopes that eventually they’ll get the positive attention they need. When kids whine and parents give in, kids realize that whining gets them what they want – the attention they crave and maybe even that candy bar in the grocery shop. Picking up the child or responding with an annoyed remark (“Enough! Stop whining!”) still gives the child attention and now they know they can do this again and again.

So how do we deal with kids?

The first step is to pick a calm moment when everyone’s relaxed maybe over lunch or a snack – to talk about whining.

Talk about the difference between a whiny voice and a normal voice, and how a whiny voice hurts your ears. Let your child know how you feel when he whines and let him know that you won’t respond when he whines – you’ll just simply walk away. When he uses a normal voice, you’ll be happy to talk to him.
The next time your kids’ whine, stay true to your word. Stay calm and walk away. When your child uses a normal voice, be sure to respond right away, calmly and pleasantly. The first few times, the whining may be more intense, But after a few times of not finding a payoff for whining, they’ll realize that they are more likely to get positive attention by using a normal voice.

When kids receive the positive attention they need, behaviours like whining become less common. It’s as simple as spending 10 to 15 minutes twice a day having fun with your kids individually.

Do something they like to do, like reading, colouring or sports. This investment in one-on-one time will pay big rewards for good behaviour.😊😊

Discipline your child..!!!

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We want our children to learn from their mistakes and not repeat them.

So the natural thought is to send them to the “time out” corner or up to their room to “think about what they’ve done wrong” And they’re likely to keep up the same behaviours despite the punishment.

So, how do you discipline your child?

Often, we equate the term “discipline” with punishment. But the word “discipline” means “teaching, learning.”


That’s the key to correcting our kids’ behaviours – giving them the tools they need to learn a better behaviour.
When we discipline in a way meant only to punish and have the child “pay” for their mistake, it doesn’t help our child learn how to make the right choice next time.
No one likes being ordered around – punishment can lead to power struggles and because our kids know this poor behaviour gets them attention, they’ll keep doing it.

When it comes to knowing how to discipline your child, we can focus on key areas: giving them the positive attention they need and taking time for training and setting limits.😊😊

Parenting !!!

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A good parent means you need to teach your child the moral of what is right and what is wrong. Setting limits and being consistent are the keys to good discipline. Be kind and firm when enforcing those rules.

Parents who are the most successful with their parenting follow some basic rules:

1. Give your child choice:

Giving your child choices doesn’t mean letting them do whatever their wish. It means helping them to solve-problem on their own behaviour. Sometimes giving choices helps your child make better decisions.
Example – you want your child to turn off the TV and come for dinner. They are ignoring you – as usual. You say, “You have two choices – you can choose to turn the TV off and come to dinner or you can choose to ignore me and go to bed early.”

2. Consequence behaviour:

Consequences can be good or bad. You want to teach your child that there are consequences for their actions. If your child makes great choices – they might reap the rewards of those choices. If they make poor choices they might see negative consequences. It is important to help children see the cause and effect of their behaviour.

For example, if your child refuses to go to bed – the consequence might be early bedtime the next night. If your child went to bed easily the night before – you might recognize that behaviour by giving them an extra story time before bed.

3. Parenting with care and respect.

Parenting with respect can make the difference in your ability to be effective.Children learn the most from our actions. When we shout at them all the time – children become deaf to our words and wait for us to scream.

Parenting is a challenge. We all have our good/ bad days. We all have those moments when we wish we had a rewind button. Parenting isn’t about perfection – it is about intention.

Help kids to identify strengths and weakness!!!

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We live in a world where success is mostly very important in life.

From our school days onward, we are frequently told to play to our strengths, but what does this message really means?

Does playing to our strengths mean that we should only do the things that we are good at and avoid activities that we are less skilled in? The answers to these questions are important because it appears that there are a number of children who feel that they don’t have any strengths at all. It is difficult to recognize their own strengths.

This lack of belief in their own level of skill and ability is preventing many children from realizing their full potential.

Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. But at what point in life do people recognize them and begin to act in order to make the most of who they are? The earlier we come to understand ourselves, the more satisfied and productive we can become. One gift parents can offer is helping their children discover their own abilities and short comes.

# Observe your kid:
Watch them at work and at play time. What kinds of tasks come easily? What tasks seem difficult? What activities do they enjoy? Which ones do they dislike?

# Challenge your kid:
Challenge them when you recognize weaknesses in areas they need. Challenge them to improve skills.

# Evaluate with your kids:
Give your kids feedback about various task-related areas of their lives. Tasks which they enjoy might be signs of strength. Tasks which they dislike might be signs of weaknesses.

# Encourage experimentation:
Kids should have many opportunities to experiment. Kids often stumble onto hidden strengths and weaknesses through new experiences.

# Early in kids life:
Your kids will excel in some areas and falter in others. As a parent, you will allow children with their interests and abilities to change over time. A child might excel in mathematics and pursue math-related courses in their earlier school years but want to move in a different academic direction later.

To find a child’s true strength, you need to look for three components –
Use (they want to do the activity all the time),
Energy (never gets tired of practising) and
Performance (is skilled at it).
Knowing these elements enables us to recognize our children’s strengths so that we are better placed to offer support and encouragement in the areas that they truly needed.😊😊

Different ways to say Instead of ‘Stop Crying’

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No one wants to see a child crying.

But when the tears are flowing, the situation can escalate quickly and before you know it, you’re screaming for them to “stop crying” or “Stop that noise, right now!” or, “Shh, everyone is looking at you”.

When in reality, all they want is to feel understood.


“Every time you dismiss or minimize your child’s feelings, you actually make your job harder.
“If you don’t hear the message they are trying to send you, they just get louder and louder.
“Children are looking for empathy and understanding.

Crying is a healthy and necessary way for kids to express their feelings.
By saying ‘stop crying’ we send the message that their feelings are not important, not valid or silly.
There are different ways to make understand in an easy way by saying:

1) It’s OK to be sad.
2) Please say what the problem.
3) I am here with you.
4) I hear that you need space.
5) I am listening to you.
6) I will help you work it out.
7) This is really hard for you.
8) It doesn’t feel fair.
9) I will stay close to you.
10) You can find me when you want to tell me.

Make Happy Morning Happy For Kids…..

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Morning is my favourite part of the day. Not the time that my alarm is set to, but the part when everyone wakes up happy, or not. And the “not” part is how we are going to add some happiness to our little ones!

• Make mornings gentle: Make it a sunny day by trying different ways of waking them in the morning.

Smile at your little ones and greet them with the happiest, “Good morning!”
You could kiss them awake and whisper, “Good morning.”
Try something better than yelling, “Get out of bed or you’ll be late!”


• Create a secret handshake: A special way of shaking hands is a tradition. Whether you do it first thing in the morning, or as you’re walking out the door, your kids will love it. It could be as simple as squeezing their hand 3 times to secretly say, “I love you.” The important thing is that it will be something memorable between the two of you.


• Leave funny messages. Leave messages in places they don’t expect. If your kids can’t read, draw pictures.
Make a smiley with sauce on dosa…or pancakes.
Write a message on a lunchbox!
There are so many ways to let your kids know they’re adored! And those small gestures of affection will make your child’s morning happier!


• Yummy fuel for the day: Breakfast can be a yummy breakfast on the table.If it comes from the love of the heart, knowing you are filling them up with healthy food for the day, and it was made with love than they will have an even better day!


• Be funny: Kids won’t get dressed? Make them laugh by telling them you’re going to take them to school in pyjamas.
Are they moving too slow? Pretend you can only move and talk in slow motion.

Remember, no matter how you choose to brighten your child’s morning, what they love more than anything is your time and attention. That’s what will follow them not only throughout their day but also throughout their lives.😊😊

Argument with Your Child? Change the pattern….

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Do you get into arguments, and get completely frustrated and then don’t know how to make it stop?

Many parents and kids have this problem. Arguing can seem like the only form of communication (or, should I say, lack of communication) that parents and kids have. As parents, we are often so busy just trying to keep our families going; we’re working, worrying, and generally living stressful lives. And when we’re stressed, we typically rely on patterns of behaviour doing the same thing over and over, even when we know it’s not working. We’re so busy, we lose sight of how arguing has become the major way we relate to our kids.

Arguments can’t happen without the parents, you want to change in order to help your kids change.

1. Don’t ignore the pattern in your relationship with your child: Have you seen this pattern in your own relationship with your child? You ask her to clean the table and her refuse and arguing starts that it… this is not my job. You both disagree. By then, you’ve had it and scream at her. She screams back, swearing. You send her to her room after yelling about everything. The key is to recognize the patterns. Pay attention to when it happens, how it happens, what started it, and how it escalates. All of this information will be helpful when you begin to change the behaviour and make it stop.

2. Don’t assume that your child will just stop arguing—or that you won’t have to change your own behaviour: Because parent/child arguments can’t happen without the parents, you need to want to change in order to help your kids change. You have to be open to change your side of the argument and find a better way to communicate. Nothing happens miraculously, but you can take steps to make change happen.

3. Don’t forget your priority: The kind of relationship you want with your child. As with all relationships, it takes some time to set. Remember, the priority what role we want to play with our kids. It’s important to establish the kind of relationship you want with your child. Change your way of relating to your child by reinforcing your limits without screaming and arguing.

You are not alone. There are many parents working on this same thing, and their lives are changing for the better. Yours too can change. With time, some effort, and faith in yourself and your ability to become a more empowered parent, you will be able to change and develop a more effective way to communicate with your child.😊

Yelling at kids? Do you…?

 

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Yelling at kids? Do you…?

Are you a mom that yells?

All Moms are perfect and so am I,
But at times my kids won’t respond or obey unless I raise my voice.

“Yelling is just a way …….”
Yelling only adds tensions to the atmosphere of your home.
And when a parent yells at a child frustration and anger are being expressed instead of love and affection -which every child desperately needs.

We know how important as a parent to from our principles rather than from our fears, but despite our best intentions we lose it and end up yelling at those we love the most – our Kidz

And why?

Actually for good reason. We often blame our kids for our outbursts and convince ourselves that it’s because they don’t listen to us, they are disrespectful or misbehave at times. It’s important to understand that these are just our triggers—actions, behaviour or events. We often react without thinking.

Parenting is a very personal experience and our feelings can easily get in our way of logic.

Effective habits for your child

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Kids are expected to memorize tables, spellings and many more things.

They have to finish their work on time, organize school bag and so many other things.

It’s natural for you to expect your child to get into routine automatically and assume that they will learn to manage and work around things. While some do learn on their own, other needs to be guided through. It’s a crucial time for your child the habits that get formed now will stay with them for a lifetime. Staying organized is essential to having a decluttered mind, which in turn will help your child work efficiently. When you teach your child to manage their daily tasks and routines in an organised manner, their academics will gradually reflect the same. Guide them on organizing wardrobes, drawer, books and other things.

You can help your child develop healthy habits early in life that will bring lifelong benefits. 😊😊

How often do you hug your children?

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Life is very busy and stressful.

One of the most important things we need to do is to stop and give our kids a big loving squeeze ‘HUG’

Higher self-esteem, improved academic performance, parent-child communication, and behavior problems have been linked to this type of affection.

On the other hand, children who do not have affectionate parents tend to have lower self esteem and to feel more hostile, aggressive, and anti-social.

Unconditional love and affection from a parent can make children emotionally happier and less anxious.

This happens because their brain actually changes as a result of the affection. On the other hand, the negative impact of childhood abuse and lack of affection impacts children both mentally and physically. This can lead to all kinds of health and emotional problems throughout their lives.😊😊

Show Your Kids you Love Them

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Love binds people together and allows us to feel secure, hopeful, and full of joy. We all benefit from love both by giving love and by receiving love.

Some easy ways to tell your children you love them are quick to execute, but each will make your child feel very special.

1. Show them a new experience – whether it’s taking them on a day trip or even finding a new park to explore, show them you love them by trying something new.
2. Make their favorite meal– I’m pretty sure the kids could eat it for every meal and not miss anything.

3. Let them choose – Let your kids pick how they want to spend time with you. Whether playing in park or riding bike, it will offer insight into your child to see how they like to spend their time with you

4. Have a yes day – This is certainly not my own idea. Do you find yourself telling your kid “No” a lot? I know you don’t mean to…but sometimes it happens. Have a “Yes” day. Anything your kiddos suggest.. Say yes …

5. Daily spend some time together –Whether it’s 15 minutes in the morning, snuggle time after nap-time, or 10 minutes before homework starts, have dedicated time with your child. How are they feeling, what’s going on in their day? A few minutes over dinner is my favorite time of the day with my kiddo!

6. Have an annual mommy/kid date–pick a weekend to do something with each of your kids. Maybe it’s simply watching the same movie with popcorn or outing.

7. Play outside with kids – May be football, blow bubbles, enjoy etc.

8. Tell them what you like about them – speak positive encouragement into your child’s life by telling them the things you like about them, the areas you are seeing them grow, how you saw them be kind to someone.

9. Even if your little one can’t read yet, you can draw them a picture. Kids will love this surprise in their pocket and will treasure them.

10. You make up a special code with your child that means “I love you.” Your child will enjoy thinking up their own special code, and whenever one of you does the signal, the other should respond.😊😊

Are you a grumpy MOM?

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You wish you’d used a nicer tone of voice. You know you need to be sweet, but you’re just not feeling it.

Some days everybody in the house is miserable just because you’re a grump. You know it’s you t hat’s setting the unpleasant mood, but you’re not quite sure how to pull yourself out of it.

Let’s see some of the common reasons a mom gets grumpy ..

Maybe there are more things that need to be done in a day.

# You’re overwhelmed: Maybe the kids are exceptionally hyper and are creating a less than a peaceful environment. Maybe due to your busy schedule, the house has turned into a disaster zone and you don’t see how you can possibly pull it back together. You wish everybody would just behave and stop causing you all this trouble, and when they don’t shape up and clean up and straighten up you are a not at all happy.

# Your family is irritating you: Sometimes, in spite of every effort you’ve made to serve your family with a sweet attitude, they seem intent on making your day miserable. As you evaluate what you might have done wrong, you honestly cannot think of anything else and get stressed out.

# You’re tired: Do I really even need to explain that being tired makes a mom feel grumpy? But most of us are perpetually tired. It’s a never-ending mother ‘s job……Take some time for yourself.

# Say Yes to your kids: If you’re in a bad mood, is it fair to ruin everyone else’s day? No….Instead of snapping at your kids, let them play…Encourage them to have some fun. Watching and listening to my children laugh always puts me in a better mood.

# You’re hungry: Have you ever heard the term “hangry”? It’s when you feel grumpy or angry because you need to eat…
If your blood sugar drops too low you may even start to feel shaky and weak. This is not a good position for a mom.

Eat breakfast within an hour of waking up and be sure to eat plenty of food throughout the day. When you’re busy dealing with children it’s very possible you’re eating a lot less than you think you are! Always keep healthy snacks.😊😊

Put an End to Lying and Encourage honesty !!!

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It takes a lot of courage, to tell the truth for anyone at any age.

It doesn’t always come naturally, so it’s a parent’s responsibility to teach a child to be brave enough. When your preschooler starts lying, it’s simply a new developmental milestone.

Many times kids do have a legitimate reason for stretching the truth they want to avoid punishment, disappointing their parents or an unpleasant outcome. Would you be honest if you knew it would cause you a lecture, a punishment or being yelled at?

It’s hard for a child to tell the truth when they know those will be the outcomes.
And naturally, when our kids blatantly lie to us, we want to punish them to make sure it doesn’t happen again. Unfortunately, that’s exactly what happens when we punish kids for lying, they’ll keep doing it in the hopes of avoiding any future punishment. So if we can’t punish them, how do we put a stop to the lies. Following tips can help you make your home a more honest place.

1. Talk with your children- very early about how much you value honesty in your family. Tell them how important it is to all of you that you can always count on each other to tell the truth-even when it’s difficult. If there’s not honesty between parents and children, there won’t be trust or closeness in your family either.

2. Keep calm- Watch how you respond to misbehaviour and mistakes in your home, when kids spilt juice on the carpet they worry about being yelled or punished when they mess up, they won’t want to come to you with the truth. Focus on using a calm voice – yes, it can be tough, but it’s possible. But instead of getting angry and assigning blame, discuss solutions to the problem with your child.

3. Get the whole truth. While we may want to put our child on the spot when we catch them in a lie, accusing or blaming them will only make things worse. Getting to the root of the problem and understanding why they couldn’t be honest with you will help you encourage your child to tell the truth in the future.

4. Delight in do-overs. Think of mistakes as a way to learn how to make better choices. When we stay calm and avoid yelling or punishing our kids for mistakes, our kids will be more likely to admit. Turn the mistake into a learning opportunity.

5. Show the love. Let your kids know you love them, even when they make mistakes. Make sure they know that while you don’t like their poor behaviour, you will never love them any less because of the mistakes they might make. This helps your kids feel safe opening up to you.

Remember that it takes time to build up trust. Be patient.
Creating an environment where kids feel safe telling the truth.😊